7 You should be grateful for

1. If you are alive then you better be grateful for that
2. Family, whether good or bad whether insane or downright crazy, still something to be awesomely grateful for
3. Friendships, if you have good people who keep  you  in check then you have a reason to be thankful         
4. To be continued.....

Take it from me

There is a song that talks about kindness and weakness how so distinct they are just because I am good to you does not mean you have the right to overstep the boundary.Some people literally push the envelope too far and openly disrespect you because they have the idea in their mind you can not do anything about it.

Truth is I can throw my heel at you. I can hurl insults at you but I will not lower myself to your level. I have been lately infuriated by some close people in my life, I am not perfect but I try my best to tolerate others, it is not easy or a piece of pie but I strongly believe in treating others as I would want them to treat me. some people obviously have not yet got that memo and push and push. I do not want to get so infuriated that I hurt you in a fit of rage so when I walk away from the confrontation let me be.

Intentionally hurting someone simply because you have the idea in your head that she or he cannot do anything about it is just down right silly. Learn how to speak to people and that is how they will speak back to you. Treasure the things that matter in your life before you loose them do not even for a minute take them for granted.

I hate confrontations if that makes me a coward,  so be it but just don't push me to the edge you do not want to find out what lies on  that other side of the cliff. I am  trying to be civil to you, you may not like me but that is just fine but kindly respect my space. I will never punch you, no! Not in this life but don't make me think about it.

Not the B**** Word!!

Pardon me if I come out too strong but I don't get why being termed a B**** is so cute or great. I mean women before my generation were all about empowerment of the woman and fighting against derogatory terms that undermine them, yet we are in  the 21st century with all the power we have been given by those who believed a woman was supposed to be a treasured creature , respected and as classy as they come.

Is it just me or something is wrong with our thought pattern. Why do girls like me respond to names that do not define them. Why would I answer to someone who is  classless enough to call me the B word? I mean really? It doesn't stop there, we still allow our female friends to call us in such degrading names, apparently that is somehow supposed to look  cool.

 

I strongly disagree, the last time I checked I didn't have four legs so before you think of calling me that, seriously look around and differentiate between a woman and a female dog. To me, like it or not, it 's rude, uncultured  and detestedful in every bit.

 So before you call someone else a B**** think twice if you would want your sister, mother or grandmother being termed as a B****, I bet that will tick you off. So Hi, how about a new generation of respectful men!

I found her, but not in the package I was looking in

So this one gentleman tells his friend that at least he(the friend) has a girlfriend although she didn't quite exactly come in the package he was expecting, in fact it took him some getting used to before he could even look at the possibility of asking her out. To be precise in his mind, he thought he was going to find a girlfriend with the best body and the list is endless.

 

 

That conversation inspired my blog today. I mean honestly speaking, how many times do we pass of people whether subconsciously or consciously simply because they don't look the part or something about them didn't make us feel at ease.  A friend of mine was talking to a new friend and the conversation was great until she realized he  is from a township, does that really matter?(don't give her that look yet) It does not determine the value of the guy although to my friend she associated him immediately to horror stories she had heard.

 

I cannot blame her for her misguided perceptions, because more often than not, we all do the same thing.

If they are successful and that bothers us, we look at the things about them that we find appalling, whether we look at their car, and call them proud or whatever else we pick up to discredit them. If his a committed husband then, there is definitely something wrong with him. I would be  lying if I said that I have never shrugged someone off because they didn't look the part or they didn't sound like or match my mental picture.

 

See the thing about perceptions is, you get a first impression of the 'package' once and that is the only opportunity you get to fairly judge the package. Please unravel the package and afterwards you are free to make your own conclusions and judgments.

 

I think the reason we sometimes end up wondering what happened to all the good men or girls is simply because they might not have come in the package we had hoped for. So hey...they might come as pretty as you hoped for(Amen!!) , or a little different or flawed. ladies the guy may come a little broke but with a pocket full of dreams and if you don't give him the room to grow because he didn't have the car you hoped for, well what makes you think when he has that car he will be interested in you?

 

I am in no means advising any one to settle by all means set your standards above the moon but if the moon is a little hidden by the clouds, give it a chance, it will definitely shine.