Thank you In advance

It so human to complain and forget the blessings of just seeing the day.A story is told a about a preacher who kept telling his congregation every-time and in every situation,it could be worse.Many people questioned why he said this statement.I mean how  many of us just say an Amen because the pastor asked for one?

Anyway someone asked him to to explain why he keeps saying that statement.You see this particular preacher had no wife or kids but still he kept saying even in the midst of that drama -'it could have been worse'.

I mean how many people would  dare say those words when reality has knocked you off balance?Well this man said when he lost his wife and children it could have been worse.How bad does it get for him?You see the only reason he could utter those words is because he discovered the power of being grateful..He would have died with his family yet he was still around.I would say so confidently those words would I have been in his shoes.

By the way it is not  a made up story,just in case you were wondering.I sometimes find myself complaining about my job,salary and all the other missing links in my life.I find myself so out of touch with my day because I am on a complaining high.It does not matter how down you are,there is always something to be grateful for.So I decided to prepare my gratitude list and make sure I  go through it everyday,so when i forget to remember what is truly accorded to me for free,I will redirect my focal point to what is in front of my eyes.

We are human and pity parties seem OK for a while though,so instead of focusing too much on  what is not the way we hope it could be,lets focus on what we see and show gratitude daily.

A Little Flawed

It has taken a great deal of time for my friend to admit that she is  not as perfect as she thought and no one is.She had an inherent desire to be perfect not a clean freak or neat freak.No!simply to be perfectly understood and to seem put together and unflawed.(If that is a word).You see it is easier to look at other people and judge then based on your own standards.

I heard someone say that most 'perfectionist' (if you are one do not stone me yet )use their perceived perfectionalism to hide their insecurities.Whether true or not is a matter of an opinion.Well little needs to be said about how this affects others, to some point it almost feels like controlling others and not even knowing  it.I remember a friend of mine who could not allow anyone to sit on her bed in Campus.Infact come to think about it,neither did she.She would make her bed and only sit on a chair so as to not spoil her bed.If she ever did something that would cause someone else to ask questions she would beat herself (though not literally because that would be crazy) over it even though to others it was not a big deal,it is the inability to accept mistakes as part of being human that drives her crazy in her perception,she is calculative not wanting for mistakes to happen so she over analyzes everything.The line human is to error does not really gel with her.

Why is it easier to pass off as a perfect being?It is harder to deal with reality because lets face it,how likely is it that two different people will share the same traits?

We all are flawed in a way  whether it is obvious to others or not.I am not in anyway saying perfectionalism is bad infact it is a good trait to have even at work because at the end of the day you can be sure that you have represented yourself in the most dignified manner.I have not yet,read of any great man born on earth flawless other than Jesus.

The more energy we put in trying to look as the best packaged product,the more we become miserable creatures who live  to please others but are never honest with themselves.It is easier to judge others when you look at yourself as the ultimate.

I am not the refference point on how we as humans are intended to live and interact but I know for,sure unless someone would convince me differently,the only reason we need a saviour is because we are created with flaws.Being flawed is not an  anexcuse not to be the best version of yourself!