'Just Chill'

You can never really diagnose yourself as being inpatient until someone else tells you which you will automatically give all the reasons in the world why it is normal.I will bbe the first to admit it before I go any further I am guilty as charged.I could give an excuse that being a lover of heels who refuses to compromise on decent walking shoes,that could be my reason as lame as it sounds.Lets face it,no one wants to stand in a que whether there are two or twenty people infront of you.Equal amount of irritation.I still do not understand how on earth people line up in a restaurant I mean is it not the one place where you pay to make your stomach happy and that should equate great service?

As much as I am  impatient,waiting is a no-no for me though if I am being truthful I will have to admit I am not keen on keeping time either.I should probably think about that more seriously.I remember keeping someone waiting for over two hours.I had legitimate reasons but still that does not justify wasting someone elses time.In patient people have the habit of putting the sole burden of their impatience on someone else.It is like a parent saying that he or she is impatient with his/her child.I mean isnt that a little funny being you are the parent so the training of the child is solely on you.But anyway I am not trying to be judge Mez,I will let the judging be for those who are paid to do it.

In life there are so many ques you will have to follow so many slow people in your eyes but the most important thing to learn is how to breath and the magic word is CHILL.Anything chilled is not too hot or too cold just precise.I do get frustrated at people who keep me waiting and I can bet they also feel like strungling me although not literally when I am late.I do not think being chilled means you allow people to purposely waste your time or everytime someone decides to skip the line it is ok.That would be naive most times we all want to go to the same place.Take for example you all want to fly in the same plane and you already have your seat number,why would you feel as if you are the one in a hurry and everyone around you is just dragging along.Most times than not you tend to get so impatient to the point you loose interest in what you wanted to do.

You are probably in church and you would like to go somewhere and that day the pastor decides why not take five more minutes aaahaa from then on being the impatient creatures we are you either teleport your brain to where you were meant to go or you will simply utter quick amens without even being there just for him to get over and done with.Why do people try to overtake in a bend?same reason.

So just chill!

How Big a Man are you?

I know with just reading the topic your probably scratching your head wondering what I will say next. Well nothing new just a new way of putting it at least I hope. Moving on, and into the thick of things. The other day someone got to me. The reason I say got to me is because I am in the process of  managing anger.I am not one of those people who get upset over huge things but I believe small annoying things people do really get me worked up.

Funny thing about anger is,it does not discriminate the difference is in how we deal with it.Come on before you place judgement on me how many times do you get upset on your way to Church or when you are expected to put a happy face? It happens to the most 'up-right' of all.When I get furious my head and not necessariy logical,tells me to confront the object of my anger and that does not always go down well on my part because at the end of the day my heart will tell me how awful I was to person X.Anger is like an illicit brew when you are on it,you are high for a second and you can even fly off a building literally but when the high is over,you have to deal with the consequences of the 'night' before.

I have grown to admire people who manage to keep come even offended and  deal with it when they are 'sober'.It is so easy to ruin friendships or families by few poisonous words when you are on the 'anger high.'You obviously have a clue about what I am talking about so I will not continue with the consequences rather what happens after an outburst.I would rather someone I have hurt come forward instead of secretly stubbing in their heads although when I think about the literal stubbing,I would like to withdraw my statement.We will all annoy people around as at one time or another or they will annoy us.The way we deal with it is what deserves the 'Grammy award'.The Bible actually says in your anger make sure you do not sin!You can never completely deal or contain your anger so the starting point is for small baby steps.

I have learnt from a close friend of mine  that being the bigger man is simply working a way and dealing with the issue after having some cool-down session.Confrontation during the 'anger high' is always the worst.Walking away as opposed to locking fists or bitter exchange of words is always the best. You are  a much bigger man or woman if you can manage your anger.