What Makes a Superstar?

I am very intrigued by celebrities it is not so much about their star power but rather the real persona behind the glamour and flashy lights.See all or most of them have a story to tell.The one thing I want to talk about is the fact that they are all unique that is why they are regarded as celebrities.Whether they are worth the title or position is not for me to judge.

I want to look at the competition between 'uniques'.Everyone of them is out to out do the other and bring  a fresh element to their are of specialisation.Whether it is through outrageous fashion or pulsating music videos.I will not argue about the morality of what they do but rather how  distinct they all are.I have not hard a celebrity say she or he would like to be a copy of another.So this statement begs the question:why are we trying  so much to a copy or imitation of someone else?I mean why are we caught in the rat race of trying to look like so and so or have lips like who ever you admire?I was shocked to read that though manipulation of genes parents can choose what qualities they admire in their 'idols' and have their children looking like them.How outrageous is that?

Imagine for a second if that was the order of the day.A whole town of look-a- likes with nothing super about them.I believe every woman old or young struggles with weight but it breaks my heart to hear someone  say they would do anything to look like someone else.Really?before Beyonce and Jennifer Lopez,curvy as a body type was not as accepted as it is right now.They used whatever makes them unique and made it acceptable.I'm I saying forget the salon or do not bother with trends!No.of course not as long as this is not in pursuit of looking like a copy or as long as this things do not master you,then go for it.We need to spend sometime in the mirror and see ourselves in our own eyes.Confidence comes with knowing who you are and accepting there are things you do not like but also looking at things you see as amazing whether someone else has noticed or not.No one has the full package everyone has something they wish was better but we do not get stack at that.

I am not saying that it is easy to do so on the contrary,it takes time and energy to see yourself.You  do not have to be in the shadows,you are worth shinning on your own.The story is the same and I may write it in an other diction but the message still remains the same. You are unique accept that and live it.

You choose what is 'cool' to you and  who knows we could be celebrating you!So you know what makes a superstar?Being unique and if you can be that,then you are already a star you just need to be celebrated!!

Not so Gray!

I am fascinated by people who are eternal pessimists they wake up and see  a lovely day outside instead of seeing the beauty of that-they begin previewing what is wrong with  the day.You call it reality,well you make your reality.It does get to me to even spend a second with them I  mean there are SO many negative things in the world,do we really need someone sitting  next to us magnifying it?I say no!Then wait until they break a heel on their way to work we never get the end of how bad the day is yet it is a simple case of a shoe breaking now the particular someone has already visualised how everything terrible will happen.Of course it does go horribly  wrong as predicted.

Let me get to my point see we all have those mornings that have a few mishaps.I have learnt the secret  code of silence when things start out a little shaky.We are not born optimist or pessimists our environment dictates it but we cant let our background take all the blame there are too many success stories out there from people who had really tough backgrounds.We  choose what to let into our space.I found myself with an acquaintance who was in a bad space to say the least she was  complaining about how horrible everything is.

To make her feel better I repeated her negative statement and before long true to my words though everything was great,by declaring those little words all in the name of solidarity my world over-turned for a while.It is so interesting to me that we have that kind of power.It is not just a Biblical statement but rather true!You could say that is a coincidence but i beg to differ.I believe that with our words we really shape what we want.I do not suggest that mere  words is enough but more often or not what we talk about constantly becomes our truth.A friend of mine once said if you get into something you have no belief in or declare the negative before you even start,chances are it will definitely fail.You have  set your mental register to only see the negative so even if you met the 'perfect' scenario for work or whatever else you desire,you would be too absorbed on what could go wrong to see it.

Truth is  the world is dark and bright  at the same time look around and declare the positive you want.It is no fantasy but as much as the negative out ways the positive what should we dwell on?solutions or more problems!Someone once said- 'why should you spend your time talking about things you hate?surely there must be some good in your environment'!You are allowed to feel a little negative sometimes but if that is how you decide to live,then you really are not living you are merely existing!Living is all about seeing the negative and still taking a calculated risk and believing there is some good out there!!

'New Girl Syndrome'

All of us have experienced those very awkward first days at work or school.Saying it is uncomfortable is an understatement it straight out nerve-wracking.See most of us  start school at the same time with our peers so it is not as appalling as when you have to be the new girl who looks scared and shy.Through primary you become  the senior and finally the one who notices all the new faces around because at this point you are in the comfort zone of your school circle.

High school for me was even more depressing being the new girl.My friend and I were among the last ones to join our classmates so I would say at least the rest had got enough time to know each other or to stare.We on the other hand were just thrust in unfamiliar territory from strange introductions that felt like they were taking forever.I mean you do not want to  steal the spot light on the first day or seem too forward or shy.The uncertainty in whether you should simply laugh  at a  'so not funny' jokes to camouflage is very evident.For that one minute you look around and realise hi-you have no idea who your room-mates are and their faces sort of creep you or probably your face does the same to them.After all that they are still seniors lining up as if they have an inherent power to supervise all the new girls.All the discomfort that goes with it like watching you do not look as if you were sneering.I can not tell you how many times I had to fake a smile just to get through the seniors 'unharmed.'

Somehow time drags when you are new and a simple semester in Varsity feels like eternity and while the actual lecture,hmmm....., it just makes you wish  you could  go back to High school.There is the odd silence and no one knows who to share notes with or even what language this strange alien 'speaks'!From my communication class I would confidently tell you to always make sure you gravitate to people whom you think you could possess similar world  views but never hang out in the corner alone.Is this always the case?Of course not as much as I know this I am also realistic but I will not seat in a corner alone.I think I just contradicted myself.

Truth is the 'new girl syndrome' is something we all go through whether at work or in school,.The trick is simply in the way we respond to it.As tempting as it is to seat in a corner and devour all the food alone,the best conversations happen at that moment.From my P.R class we  had a whole two hour lecturer on the bset way to network in an elevator,strange you think?A plus is - there is always someone who is just feeling the same uncomfortable tickle that you feel and they have chosen to plunge into deep conversation.

So plunge into that conversation-just do not dominate and sharpen your networking skills so no one will put you in a box without your concent!!